Foster a Positive Relationship with a Shared Wellness Routine

In this guest post, we share ideas for creating a wellness routine to support a positive relationship.

Most people understand how important personal well-being is for a happy and healthy life. The same goes for relationships. 

In this article, we’ll explore how to maintain a healthy relationship with various well-being practices related to general health, finances, and having fun. We’ll also share how and why you should have a shared wellness routine, with helpful ideas and examples.

General Well-Being

When you and your partner have good overall health, you can show up better in your relationship. There are many ways you can foster general well-being individually and together, including:

• Eating nutritious meals
• Exercising together
• Checking in with your doctors regularly
• Getting adequate rest
• Practicing self-care

Work together to stay on top of your wellness. Plan when and how you’ll achieve wellness practices. You might do some together and others separately. 

If you notice your partner not taking care of their well-being, lead by example. You can also discuss with them why their health is important to you and your relationship. That said, you want to guide them gently, as forcing them to practice general well-being can cause unnecessary friction.

Social-Emotional Health

You and your partner come from different walks of life with different ways of coping with stress and challenges. Dialogue and open communication can help you have a positive relationship, regardless of the traumas or issues either or both of you have experienced.

If a conflict arises, try to avoid arguing with your partner. Instead, aim to see the issue from his or her perspective. Attending classes offered by relationship experts or therapists can teach techniques to improve socio-emotional health as a couple. The Gottman Institute offers resources for couples to start understanding each other’s communicative needs at an in-depth level.  

There are also activities that you and your partner can do together. Mind and body workouts (Yoga, Tai Chi, Pilates, Qigong, Feldenkrais) are great ways to boost your mood on the mat with your workout partner.

Financial Health

44% of millennials don’t discuss money issues in a relationship, even though 50% of couples divorce because of finances. Making an effort to discuss finances can help you both feel secure in your relationship and in life in general because you can plan for having enough money for your needs and enjoyment, too.

Routine check-ins with you and your partner’s finances let you prioritize the discussions to plan and get on the same page. Make time once per week or month to discuss your expenses, including food, transportation, bills, savings, etc. 

Consider working with a financial expert or certified financial relationship coach for guidance on budgeting, saving, and paying off debt. Digital financial apps can also streamline the process of planning finances and deciding how and when to spend funds.

As your relationship progresses, major big-ticket items associated with milestones in your life will come. Planning a wedding or getting a new home together will require teamwork to ensure that these special moments do not later create conflicts in your relationship over financial costs.

Assessing Your Overall Relationship

Nurturing healthy relationships requires checking in with yourself and your relationship as a whole. It’s common to get so busy in your daily lives that you don’t even notice how you feel in your relationship. 

Consider asking yourself these questions from time to time, and encourage your partner to do the same:

• Am I happy in my relationship?
• Is there anything missing in my relationship?
• How could my relationship be better?
• What’s working in my relationship?
• Are there issues in my personal life affecting my relationship?
• Are there concerns I have with my partner or relationship?

It’s important to consider the good and bad in your relationship. We tend to focus on the negatives, but recognizing the good gives us motivation to continue working towards a positive relationship.

After you spend time evaluating your relationship with yourself, discuss your thoughts with your partner and vice versa. This is an excellent way to connect with each other, ensure you continue doing what’s working, and change what’s not.

Enjoying Your Relationship

Most importantly, a positive relationship requires having fun together. Don’t get so busy with work, chores, children, or other priorities that you and your partner don’t enjoy your relationship.

Make time for dates—whether that be a night out, meeting up for lunch, or even having an at-home date. You can also plan an occasional vacation together, where you have at least a few days to spend quality time together away from distractions. Don’t forget to make time for physical intimacy, too!

A Positive Relationship Takes Work

We hope these suggestions on how to maintain a healthy relationship have inspired you. Nurturing positive relationships can significantly impact your overall health and well-being – plus, they create more fun in our lives!

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